Me personally I dislike the show because of how it depicts the people involved especially the mothers before the pregnancy and after. As we discussed in the class Wednesday the issue of morality, when the show first comes on the teens are portrayed in this positive light. Then all of sudden you hear those tragic words,BUT "I'm pregnant" after they just shed this positive image on us as them being all goodie goodie. Is it not possible to still be positive and pregnant. It's like they don't give a lot of the mothers a alternative motive. After their image is "destroyed" for having a baby is when all the problems come along for instance Leah and Corey who are now in a custody battle for their twins or Jenelle who has been on youtube fighting and all has a record (http://elektroradio.com/leah-messer-and-corey-simms-inside-the-breakup-and-battle-for-the-twins/ )
1) Do you think the pressure of being in the spot light is to much pressure for these youth mothers like Janelle, Leah, and Amber?
2) Do you think MTV takes into consideration what effect they will have on these families when they cast these people?
3) Could the fact that the Teens are receiving money play a factor in their deviant actions?
Dorsey
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
OctoMom and the Duggars
Below is a video of an interview with the OctoMom Nadya Suleman. If you are not familiar with her story, you can view the video below and get a little look into her story. She currently has 14 kids which she had artificially inseminated through en-vitro. She used the same man for every procedure but he has not been involved at all in any of the children's lives. Although she has help from friends and family it is clear that she struggles being a single mom. Also, being involved in the media she often deals with rumors about her obsession to look like Angelina Jolie, her welfare checks, her inability to care for her children, and her relationship with her babies daddy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkKslz42k5E&feature=related
On the other side of the spectrum there is a family, with a hit T.V. show, named the Duggars. They are a very religious family that do not believe in contraception. They currently have 20 children and may have more. Having seen a couple episodes, it is surprising to see how loving the parents are toward each other and their children. They have a clear concise plan laid out each day for each child and, with the occasional 'fit', they are very well behaved children who respect their siblings and parents.
1. These two stories are similar in a lot of ways, but also very different in the way they are portrayed. Do you think that because Nadya, the Octomom, has no father figure in her children's lives that they can never have a life like the Duggars, or is that just circumstance?
2. When you hear of friends or family having twins or triplets, you tend to think of all the hard work that lays ahead of them. Do you think having that many kids, like the Duggars and Nadya, is just too many to be able to give all of them enough attention and care?
3. The Duggars religion plays a huge role in their family. Regardless of religion do you think it would be appropriate to consider the option of contraception or that it is important to stay strong to your beliefs no matter the situation?
-Lauren Bellm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkKslz42k5E&feature=related
On the other side of the spectrum there is a family, with a hit T.V. show, named the Duggars. They are a very religious family that do not believe in contraception. They currently have 20 children and may have more. Having seen a couple episodes, it is surprising to see how loving the parents are toward each other and their children. They have a clear concise plan laid out each day for each child and, with the occasional 'fit', they are very well behaved children who respect their siblings and parents.
1. These two stories are similar in a lot of ways, but also very different in the way they are portrayed. Do you think that because Nadya, the Octomom, has no father figure in her children's lives that they can never have a life like the Duggars, or is that just circumstance?
2. When you hear of friends or family having twins or triplets, you tend to think of all the hard work that lays ahead of them. Do you think having that many kids, like the Duggars and Nadya, is just too many to be able to give all of them enough attention and care?
3. The Duggars religion plays a huge role in their family. Regardless of religion do you think it would be appropriate to consider the option of contraception or that it is important to stay strong to your beliefs no matter the situation?
-Lauren Bellm
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Sex Ed, STI'S and Contraceptive use
I found the following article discussing the types of contraceptives. Please read over the article and answer the questions please.
http://www.avert.org/birth-control-contraception.htm
*If it won't let you click on the link, copy and paste the link into a new window browser and it should work than*
1. Some states require that in order for you to obtain contraceptives you must have parental consent. Do you feel that this would possibly increase teen pregnancy in these states because many teenagers would be too afraid to ask their parents for consent? With that being said do you think all states should make it legal to obtain condoms or any other contraceptive without their parents knowledge?
2. Many people don't know about the alternative contraceptives besides the pill and a condom. How important is it that schools emphasize the other types of contraceptives besides the condom and the pill? the schools that Where you personally thought about the other methods listed in the article?
3. Who do you feel is responsible for teaching sex education?
4. At what age should sex education be learned?
5. Do you believe sex education encourages young people to have sex or does it actually reduce the chances of the person wanting to have sex?
-Chris M.
http://www.avert.org/birth-control-contraception.htm
*If it won't let you click on the link, copy and paste the link into a new window browser and it should work than*
1. Some states require that in order for you to obtain contraceptives you must have parental consent. Do you feel that this would possibly increase teen pregnancy in these states because many teenagers would be too afraid to ask their parents for consent? With that being said do you think all states should make it legal to obtain condoms or any other contraceptive without their parents knowledge?
2. Many people don't know about the alternative contraceptives besides the pill and a condom. How important is it that schools emphasize the other types of contraceptives besides the condom and the pill? the schools that Where you personally thought about the other methods listed in the article?
3. Who do you feel is responsible for teaching sex education?
4. At what age should sex education be learned?
5. Do you believe sex education encourages young people to have sex or does it actually reduce the chances of the person wanting to have sex?
-Chris M.
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Not So Secret Life of the American Teenager
ABCFamily has a series titled Secret Life of the American Teenager. The show began with fifteen-year-old Amy finding out she was pregnant by the school player, Ricky, after her first time having sex. Ricky initally denies being the father but eventually assumes responsibility. Throughout her pregnancy her friends abandon her to a certain extent and she forms relationships with other people, mainly Grace, a Christian, and Adrienne, Ricky's on-again-off-again girlfriend. Grace attemts to support Amy by urging her to have the baby. Amy also meets Ben, who is romantically interested in her and wants to help her with her baby. Ben also wants to marry Amy but everyone goes against it, saying he is not the father of her child so she shouldn't do that to him. Later Amy has the baby and Ricky says he'll be there for his son, John. To get up to date, I'm skipping some of the information. Currently, Grace lost her virginity to her boyfriend and her dad died in a plane crash. Ben and Adrienne had sex to get back at Ricky and Amy and are now expecting a daughter. Now, Ben wants to marry Adrienne. He says he doesn't want his daughter to know her parents weren't married. Amy and Ricky are currently dating and being a family, despite any lingering feelings that may exist for Ben and Adrienne respectively.
Click here to see the trailer for next weeks episode.
In the three seasons this show has been going, there have been different sexual encounters that have all had serious consequences. Amy became pregnant after her first sexual encounter; Grace's father died after she broke how vow of virginity until marriage; Adrienne, someone who was sexually experienced, became pregnant after having sex out of revenge. While Grace's situation was out of her control, Amy and Adrienne have had serious consequences of sex without a relationship. They become outcasts in the school and among their friends. Is the show sending bad messages about premarital sex to younger viewers of the show?
Marriage is also a big issue in the show. When Ben wanted to marry Amy, no one agreed because he wasn't the father. Now that Adrienne is pregnant, Ben wants to marry her, despite his dad protesting he should wait to get to know her. Ricky was showing interest in other girls, but suddenly decided he should be with the mother of his son. ABCFamily even has a poll where thrity-three percent of responders said they should get married because "they are having a baby!". Should getting married for the sake of a child be pushed over getting to know the person your marrying?
The show advertises the website stayteen.org as a resource to prevent teen pregnancy. However, there is no guarantee that viewers will visit the site. And even if they do, there is no way to know how much they will read and how much they will retain. Currently the show only discusses condoms and birth control pills as forms of birth control. However the show has two cases of where neither method worked. Should this show and others like it discuss more ways to protect against pregnancy and STIs or leave it to the viewers to learn on their own or from other sources?
Sloane H.
Click here to see the trailer for next weeks episode.
In the three seasons this show has been going, there have been different sexual encounters that have all had serious consequences. Amy became pregnant after her first sexual encounter; Grace's father died after she broke how vow of virginity until marriage; Adrienne, someone who was sexually experienced, became pregnant after having sex out of revenge. While Grace's situation was out of her control, Amy and Adrienne have had serious consequences of sex without a relationship. They become outcasts in the school and among their friends. Is the show sending bad messages about premarital sex to younger viewers of the show?
Marriage is also a big issue in the show. When Ben wanted to marry Amy, no one agreed because he wasn't the father. Now that Adrienne is pregnant, Ben wants to marry her, despite his dad protesting he should wait to get to know her. Ricky was showing interest in other girls, but suddenly decided he should be with the mother of his son. ABCFamily even has a poll where thrity-three percent of responders said they should get married because "they are having a baby!". Should getting married for the sake of a child be pushed over getting to know the person your marrying?
The show advertises the website stayteen.org as a resource to prevent teen pregnancy. However, there is no guarantee that viewers will visit the site. And even if they do, there is no way to know how much they will read and how much they will retain. Currently the show only discusses condoms and birth control pills as forms of birth control. However the show has two cases of where neither method worked. Should this show and others like it discuss more ways to protect against pregnancy and STIs or leave it to the viewers to learn on their own or from other sources?
Sloane H.
Wednesday, March 23, 2011
Abortion VS. Adoption
i found the following article through google by typing in “abortion vs. adoption” into the search bar. It caught my attention because it seems to have been done by a religious individual who i correctly guessed would have some intense opinions. Please read the following short article and respond to the questions i have below it.
Why People Choose Abortion Over Adoption
I was recently involved in a discussion about a sperm donor (or his estate, if I recall correctly, but it isn't important) being sued by a lesbian couple to whom he had donated his sperm. A child was born, the child was adopted by the lesbian couple, the male donor's estate was sued for money.
The knee-jerk reaction to this kind of case seems to be that it is wrong to view the natural parent as having any obligation to support the child once the child has been adopted by another. But that knee-jerk reaction is, in my view, wrong.
Parents have an unbreakable and permanent natural law obligation to provide for their children. Adoption is one way to provide when the natural parent is unable to do so directly: it is a mercy available for the sake of an otherwise impoverished child. In adopting a child, another person or persons take on a parallel parental responsibility.
But adoption cannot break or in any way impair a natural parent's obligation. If a man gives up his child for adoption because he wants to party and doesn't want the responsibility, he has done a wicked thing. If the adoptive parents fall on hard times and can no longer provide, or if the natural parent comes into means, then the natural parent has a moral obligation to provide.
This doesn't mean that the natural parent would be in the right to attempt to take the child back: that would only be the case if it was in fact best for the child to be taken back as opposed to simply getting outside support in her present circumstances. If the adoptive family is a healthy place for the child to be, then the natural parent may have an obligation to keep his nose out of it and write checks. Deal with it, Dad: you fathered the child.
I think this unbreakable natural law obligation is one of those things that we can't not know, at least at some level. This in turn drives people to choose abortions: they know that once they've brought a child into the world, that child forever has legitimate claim to their support; and that nothing can break this obligation.
1. “Zippy Catholic” is saying that the reason people choose abortions is because they know that they will still be morally responsible for the child if they give it up for adoption. This raises two questions:
a. Do you think that a birth parent should be forced to be any way responsible for their child after they give it up for adoption?
b. Do you think that he is right in saying that factor is a big reason in deciding for abortion against adoption?
2. This author doesn’t go into this, but according to your own beliefs, how do the responsibilities and choices of “dealing with your consequences of having sex” differ from choosing abortion and choosing adoption? For example, this author believes that even though you give your child up, you are still obligated to help support them. I believe that contradicts the fact that he seems okay with abortion because that doesn’t seem like taking your responsibilities on and supporting your ‘mistake.’
3. Whether you are pro-life or pro-choice, what are some other reasons you can think of that people choose abortion over adoption? What are some reasons to choose adoption over abortion?
-Cheyane Frizzell
Saturday, March 12, 2011
Put a ring on it?
Celebrities Who Had Kids Out of Wedlock
By Amy Harrington & e67f7217319b3210VgnVCM100000a0c1a8c0RCRD
Published August 21, 2009
| Getback
Considering that Penelope Cruz has never publicly admitted that she's been dating Javier Bardem since 2007 (and believe us, if we were dating Javier Bardem, we'd be bragging about it), it makes sense that she's declined to address recent pregnancy rumors.
Still, when the always sexy Spanish starlet was photographed in baggy clothes, she had tongues wagging that un niño might be on the way.
While it may have been shocking in the past when stars gave birth to children out of wedlock, nowadays more and more celebrities are having kids without first tying the knot. Cruz's best friend, Salma Hayek, ultimately married her baby daddy. But other famous Hollywood couples have decided to have families without the benefit of marriage.
Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry
Halle Berry had tried marriage twice, and it didn't go all that well either time. Her first husband, Atlanta Braves outfielder David Justice, reportedly left Halle suicidal. Her second union, to musician, Eric Benet, ended in 2005 amid claims that he cheated. The most beautiful actress in the world deserved happiness. It seems she finally found it with longtime boyfriend, (the equally attractive) model Gabriel Aubry. Two-and-a-half years after they started dating, Halle gave birth to their daughter, Nahla Ariela. And while Berry has said she'd like to give her baby girl a little sister or brother, she's also been clear that she has no intentions of walking down the aisle for a third time, telling the London Daily Mail, "Gabriel and I have a great partnership and a lovely daughter. But I once was stupid enough to say, in a previous relationship, 'I'm going to be with this person forever,' and realized, as I grew, that I don’t know if forever is possible."
Matthew McConaughey and Camila Alves
Matthew McConaughey seems to be on a love child roll with model girlfriend Camila Alves. She gave birth to their son, Levi Alves, in 2008 and is due to give produce another McConau-spawn in late 2009. Maybe it's the fact that the shirtless-surfer doesn't want to put on a tuxedo or that his motto, "Just keep livin'" doesn't end with "and settle down," but either way, wedding plans do NOT seem to be on the agenda anytime soon.
Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber
Naomi Watts met actor Liev Schreiber just prior to filming 2006's "The Painted Veil," and they've been dodging speculation about whether or not they're married for years. While Liev has called Naomi his wife on a couple of occasions, no evidence exists that the two actually tied the knot, and earlier this year Naomi said that Schreiber had given her a ring but they weren't rushing to the altar. They will, however, be forever bound by their two sons: Alexander, born in 2007, and Samuel, who came along less than a year and a half later.
Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie
The relationship of "Mr. and Mrs. Smith" co-stars Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie provided the biggest gossip fodder of 2005. Were they or weren't they? Did he leave wife Jennifer Aniston for Angie? On January 11, 2006, not only did Jolie confirm that she and Brad were a couple, she also announced that she was pregnant with his child. It wouldn't be their first or their last. The couple has five other children: three adopted kids (Maddox, Zahara, and Pax) and biological twins (Knox Léon and Vivienne Marcheline). Rumors that managing such a big brood has doused the passion that once fueled their romance were kicked up again recently with gossip that Brad was unhappy with Angie's attention-grabbing antics on the red carpet at the "Inglorious Basterds" premiere. But they still look happy to us.
Heath Ledger and Michelle Williams
Heath Ledger and Michelle Williams met and fell in love while playing a married couple in 2005's "Brokeback Mountain." Not long after, they were engaged, and baby girl Matilda Rose was on the way. Their unfortunate split just two years later preceded Ledger's tragic death in 2008. Williams has said it's been hard for her to balance being a single mother with her career, but it looks like help at home might be on the way. She's rumored to be engaged to director Spike Jonze, whose upcoming film adaptation of Maurice Sendak's book "Where the Wild Things Are" should make Matilda and lots of other kids very happy.
Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck
Ben Affleck might have made more tabloid headlines as half of Bennifer, but it was Jennifer Garner not Jennifer Lopez who ultimately won his heart. Garner started dating her "Daredevil" co-star in 2004 (after Ben and J-Lo's September '03 wedding was canceled), and the couple married less than a year later. With the wedding news came confirmation that Jen was pregnant and little Violet Anne was born five months later. The Afflecks seem like a pretty normal couple – this is not the spotlight-seeking Bennifer of years gone by. In fact, Bennifer II seems more content to stroll to the local market with Violet and her little sister, Seraphina, than to walk the red carpet.
Heidi Klum and Seal
Seal was either a really, really good guy or blinded by Heidi Klum's dazzling beauty when he married her in 2005. Not only had Heidi just given birth to a love child, it wasn't even his. The "Project Runway" host had recently said auf Wiedersehen to Flavio Briatore and was pregnant with his child when she met the British musician. Heidi and Seal fell in love, she had baby Leni, they married, have had two baby boys, and are expecting a girl in October 2009. Everything is wunderbar.
Madonna and Guy Ritchie
Perhaps not surprisingly, controversial pop icon Madonna has had not one, but two love children. The first, her daughter Lourdes, was born in 1996 to the singer and her personal trainer boyfriend, Carlos Leon. The second, Lourdes' half-brother, Rocco, is the son of British film director Guy Ritchie. While Madonna and Leon never wed, she did walk down the aisle with Guy just four months after Rocco's birth. The couple later adopted a son, David, in 2006 but split in 2008, which caused a bit of a headache for Madonna when she went back to Malawi to adopt another child on her own. But the Material Girl won out in the end and was granted sole custody of little Mercy in 2009.
Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn
Trailblazers in the art of staying happily unwed, Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn hooked up on the set of "Swing Shift" in 1983 and have been together ever since. Three years into their relationship, they had a son, Wyatt (now 23). Goldie's daughter, Kate, might have been rebelling when she gave birth to her own son, Ryder, in 2004: she'd actually been married to his dad, Chris Robinson, for four years. Go figure.
Farrah Fawcett and Ryan O'Neal
Days before Farrah Fawcett succumbed to cancer in June of this year, she got a visit from her only son, Redmond. Red's dad, Ryan O'Neal, made his boy promise to tell his mother that he got out of rehab for the day and to conceal the ankle shackles that would tip Farrah to the fact that Redmond was actually just out of jail for a couple of hours to see his mom one last time. The only child of the "Charlie's Angels" and "Barry Lyndon" stars has had a slew of personal problems in his 24 years, among them, witnessing the turmoil in his famously unwed parents on-again/off-again, 30-year love affair.
Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick
File this in the "could-be" category as no baby has yet been birthed. But it's not often that Kourtney Kardashian makes headlines without Kim or Khloe. But recently the oldest DASH owner revealed that she's five months pregnant with Scott Disick's baby. She and Scott have had an on-again/off-again relationship, which included a few very public rocky moments. On her family's reality show, "Keeping Up with the Kardashians," one episode revolved around mom Kris Jenner's suspicion that Scott was cheating on her daughter, and on last season's finale, Kourtney and Scott broke up after she heard another girl in the background of a phone call (in a true act of maturity, he hung up on her, and then said she disconnected him). All of this is to say, we wish them lots and lots of luck.
We have talked in class about how the average age of marriage is getting later and also about how back in the 1950s when people got pregnant, they got married. Here are some things I thought about after reading this…
1. Why does it seem to be okay for so many celebrities to be having children out of wedlock? Is it because of their age? Is it because they are financially stable? Is it because they are famous? Do you think non-famous people who are the same age and have careers are viewed in the same way if they have children out of wedlock?
2. We talked in class a lot about “the path” that society has deemed acceptable… is it considered acceptable to have a child out of wedlock if you at least have the career part of your life figured out?
3. Does it change the situation if people have a child without being married but intend on getting married later on to that partner?
4. This article uses the phrase “the benefit of marriage.” What are the benefits of marriage? Is marriage a benefit at all?
Alyssa K.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
CHOICES
In class this week we briefly discussed "choices". We are all faced with them everyday some small some huge ,but most of the time it's the outcome of those choices that make us really think about our choices. The debate of the choice in this class has been avoid thus far in the semester so I feel it's appropriate to discuss it further more.
While discussing issues like abortion, being a parent or giving the child up for adoption I asked some of my close male and female friends about their opinion on these topics.
The questions consisted of:
#1 How do you feel about abortions? and Would you ever have one you're self or be willing to let your partner get one??
#2 Would adoption be considered an option?
#3 What would be the outcome if one wasn't for an abortion?
I asked 2 females and 2 males which in one case 1 was a couple.
The first was a female very religious and very family oriented.
Her response: Abortion/lives are not supposed to be left up to the power of man. An abortion is not an option I knew the consequences of my actions and now I'm willing to deal with them whether I do it alone or with my partner. She continued to say a life is precious and shouldn't be left up to choice
Her response to #2: Given my circumstance I would considered the thought ,but I would always feel a sense of regret not knowing how my child will turn out. Ultimately she said if the cons of her situation out weighted her pros she would give up the child for adoption.
Her response to the #3: Because it's me I wouldn't care about how the other felt when it came to my well being and the child. So I would take care of it on my own and wash my hands of the situation.
The 2nd female I asked who was in a relationship brought up some good points as well
Her response to #1: I'm not against abortions or for them but I do feel in certain cases yes and some no. I would only get one if i was rapped or absolutely wasn't 100% with whom the partner was. Meaning if I didn't feel my partner was capable of caring for it.
Response to #2: I wouldn't give my baby up for adoption because I know I would miss sharing those childhood moments with them also the fact of not knowing how their living or who there with.
Response to #3: It all depends on the partner and how we feel as a combined unit. I'm not for or not against so I can't say until I'm in that predicament.
The two females made some valid points and I was eager to hear the males perspective on it.
Males Responses:
Response #1: I don't really agree with abortion for the simple fact that it's not my body nor would I force my partner to get one. Although I would be very scared if she was to go through with it. For the most part though I can't have that on my heart especially if we continue to mess around and have unprotected sex.
Response #2: As a man not having a father I wouldn't cause I want to give my child the opportunities that I was never given with my dad. I want to be involved in my child's life as much as possible and I can't do that if I give them away.
Response #3: Like I said in the beginning it's not my body I wouldn't force it and I wouldn't persuade her to do so. As my father not being there I'm glad my mom took it upon her self to have me cause obviously he wasn't going to.
Male number 2 had some different responses of those to male number one and also I found out something that i didn't know.
Response #1 I'm for abortions I'm not ready to be a father nor close to being ready. I've been with someone who had an abortion before and it hurt me and still does knowing that I convinced her to get one later finding out that is was twins. At the same time we both made that choice to do so.
Response #2 People often laugh when I say i won't give up my child but my partner got an abortion ,but that's a different feeling....like i don't know...it's like you know they out there some where and they probably don't even know you exist. They might even be looking for me.
Response #3 I've been in that situation and trust me it ain't easy so from now on I'm more cautious and I think before I act.
After asking these questions I didn't completely agree but I could understand how and why they felt this way. Given what I just told you how do you feel about the questions.
#1 How do you feel about abortions? and Would you ever have one you're self or be willing to let your partner get one??
#2 Would adoption be considered an option?
#3 What would be the outcome if one wasn't for an abortion?
While discussing issues like abortion, being a parent or giving the child up for adoption I asked some of my close male and female friends about their opinion on these topics.
The questions consisted of:
#1 How do you feel about abortions? and Would you ever have one you're self or be willing to let your partner get one??
#2 Would adoption be considered an option?
#3 What would be the outcome if one wasn't for an abortion?
I asked 2 females and 2 males which in one case 1 was a couple.
The first was a female very religious and very family oriented.
Her response: Abortion/lives are not supposed to be left up to the power of man. An abortion is not an option I knew the consequences of my actions and now I'm willing to deal with them whether I do it alone or with my partner. She continued to say a life is precious and shouldn't be left up to choice
Her response to #2: Given my circumstance I would considered the thought ,but I would always feel a sense of regret not knowing how my child will turn out. Ultimately she said if the cons of her situation out weighted her pros she would give up the child for adoption.
Her response to the #3: Because it's me I wouldn't care about how the other felt when it came to my well being and the child. So I would take care of it on my own and wash my hands of the situation.
The 2nd female I asked who was in a relationship brought up some good points as well
Her response to #1: I'm not against abortions or for them but I do feel in certain cases yes and some no. I would only get one if i was rapped or absolutely wasn't 100% with whom the partner was. Meaning if I didn't feel my partner was capable of caring for it.
Response to #2: I wouldn't give my baby up for adoption because I know I would miss sharing those childhood moments with them also the fact of not knowing how their living or who there with.
Response to #3: It all depends on the partner and how we feel as a combined unit. I'm not for or not against so I can't say until I'm in that predicament.
The two females made some valid points and I was eager to hear the males perspective on it.
Males Responses:
Response #1: I don't really agree with abortion for the simple fact that it's not my body nor would I force my partner to get one. Although I would be very scared if she was to go through with it. For the most part though I can't have that on my heart especially if we continue to mess around and have unprotected sex.
Response #2: As a man not having a father I wouldn't cause I want to give my child the opportunities that I was never given with my dad. I want to be involved in my child's life as much as possible and I can't do that if I give them away.
Response #3: Like I said in the beginning it's not my body I wouldn't force it and I wouldn't persuade her to do so. As my father not being there I'm glad my mom took it upon her self to have me cause obviously he wasn't going to.
Male number 2 had some different responses of those to male number one and also I found out something that i didn't know.
Response #1 I'm for abortions I'm not ready to be a father nor close to being ready. I've been with someone who had an abortion before and it hurt me and still does knowing that I convinced her to get one later finding out that is was twins. At the same time we both made that choice to do so.
Response #2 People often laugh when I say i won't give up my child but my partner got an abortion ,but that's a different feeling....like i don't know...it's like you know they out there some where and they probably don't even know you exist. They might even be looking for me.
Response #3 I've been in that situation and trust me it ain't easy so from now on I'm more cautious and I think before I act.
After asking these questions I didn't completely agree but I could understand how and why they felt this way. Given what I just told you how do you feel about the questions.
#1 How do you feel about abortions? and Would you ever have one you're self or be willing to let your partner get one??
#2 Would adoption be considered an option?
#3 What would be the outcome if one wasn't for an abortion?
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